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Cate Connery asked the following to LEAP students on Facebook: Do you ever feel as though you are invisible or being ignored by the people in your family? Strangers? Friends? If so what do you think you could do to prevent this from happening or make yourself heard in such situations?
Hayley Collier: I feel that is very easy to find yourself in a situation that makes you feel ignored or invisible. I think that when dealing with this situation in an environment with people whom you are not familiar with, one way to approach the situation and try to prevent this from happening would be to introduce yourself to someone new. Also to try to become a part of their conversation, whether that means listening to what they have to say or sharing your input in the conversation since they may not be aware of the way you feel, or they too may be feeling left out.
When dealing with a situation when your family makes you feel invisible or unimportant, I think that the approach would be very different. In my opinion, the best way to deal with this situation would be to talk to them about it and tell them the way that you are feeling. A lot of the time they too are probably unaware of the fact that you feel as though you’ve been ignored and it will most likely help them to try and make you feel included and important in the future.
Drew Hardin: I think that the only way to make yourself visible to all, is to make yourself vulnerable and put yourself out of your comfort zone. I think that this way is truly the best way, but when doing this, one must make sure not to force themselves onto another person creating and even more uncomfortable situation. It’s equally as bad to be always invisible than to be always the center of attention. Hope this helps all!
Kasule Micheal: When you do some thing exemplary good and respect self,there is no way some one should ignore you, not want you, see you around and they will always come to you for help, talk and discuss issues. But if you think you are not wanted when you behave recklessly, lie, irresponsible and may be useless to some situations there is no way some one serious would trust you and trust is the core of this topic.
Kyle Hornick: There are so many ways that someone can feel invisible/not wanted. The ability to walk into a room of strangers having conversations and make yourself heard must be practiced and developed. Everyone of us has so much to share but sometimes just putting yourself out there can be the hardest part of life. I’ve felt invisible recently; upon getting back to school after February break, my motivation and concentration dropped, and so did my grades. Dealing with bad grades is so hard for me. When I get a poor score on an assignment I feel like I have no one to talk to. Sure I’ll tell my parents about a bad grade but having to tell them about multiple bad grades seems impossible. I feel invisible when I try to tell them. I fear their first reaction, which is anger at me, and there’s nothing I can do to prevent this. I’ll tell my friends but we just laugh about bad grades like they’re nothing. I joke about it with them but on the inside I am really ashamed of myself and this is the time that I feel truly alone.
When you get down, you can’t just stay there. I tell myself that I know I can do better. I motivate myself with movie quotes and music. I try to get my parents to understand my point of view and above all, let them know that I will improve.
Kasule Michael: Hi, Kyle that must be depressing you right now and hurting but hey attach your self to brevity and gather strength into you.
Know that the way you see your self is the way they see themselves, try so hard to contribute to any question in class, ask a question a day and talk to a teacher twice a week maybe it will help you fill that gap you feel. Life is an inspiration look at your self as an inspiration to some and then you are better in no second starts with you
Lauren Calahan: Kyle, I am so impressed with your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable, as Drew had said. Drew, you are so right!!! Having a connection with Micheal in Uganda is significant. His presence will remind us that others are dealing with issues that are so much more grave than we are. And we in turn, can be a beacon of hope to them. Perspective helps all of us stay in the moment, as a guide for the future we envision, rather than a failure that needs to effect our confidence. Those who are writing are raising the bar for everyone – and i know, everyone agrees with Drew, the hardest part of being connected is putting yourself out there -as in – on this site. Thank you Kyle, Drew, Cate, Hayley and Micheal.
Trevor LaVeccia: If somebody wants to do a certain thing in their life and achieve it I believe that they have to put themselves out there and be vulnerable to feeling invisible or not wanted. And without this you will not meet new people or achieve the goals that you wish yourself to have in the future. I know that from experience you have to do many trials if you want to do something like meet somebody new, sometimes you will fail that trial and will feel embarrassed or alone but if you don’t keep trying you will not meet any new people or get something you want or need.
Cate Connery: Sometimes I feel invisible when I am around friends or sometimes my family. Sometimes I feel like people don’t see me the right way or want to think of me in the right away or even want look at me the right away. It’s like when I hang out with someone outside of school I get looked at normal but when I am in school I get look at funny or I just here rumors going around about me. That I know is not true but do they know it’s true or not true no the don’t!. I also feel like I am not really wanted in some places It has happened to me before once over February break it really hurt. I felt like I had no one I feel like I was nothing that I might nothing to them it really felt like I had no friends. Sometimes I feel it with my family to like I am the youngest in my family and they always want me to do well and be perfect and go to a great school and just be there “little girl” that every parent try’s to not think That there child is growing up but they really are! I think that it’s scary to some moms and dads to see their little boy or little girl grow up and become a young man or a young woman. It really hurts to feel like your not wanted but when you know inside that in someone places you really might be wanted you just don’t realize it. if you close your eyes and keep your mind wide opened things will change.