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Here are some of the results:
8 Boys and 33 girls participated in the survey. We had a diverse sample set: 7 students from Stamford, 3 from New Canaan, 14 from Darien, 3 from Norwalk and 14 other community members. The sample set ranged from middle school to high school to college age and older. High school age was most common, with 19 students participating.
LEAP asked the participants the most common places where they feel jealous and found that the most common responses fell in the categories of relationships, school, and social life. 41.4% or 12 people said they feel jealous when someone else is dating the person they like. Likewise, 12 students said that they feel jealous of students in school who they think are better looking. Lastly, the most common response (58.6% or 17 people) was that participants felt jealous in social situations, specifically feeling left out.
LEAP then asked the participants the most common actions they take when they feel jealous. Barely any of the participants said they fight physically or verbally (only 5 students). Instead, the participants act inwards, with 15 or 57.7 percent saying they feel insecure, thus losing their best self. Similarly, 16 people or 61.5 percent of the participants put themselves down. Other common responses include becoming anxious, depressed and unmotivated (11 people or 42.3%) and deciding the other person (parent, teacher, friend) is not worth your effort (12 people or 46.2 percent). Thus, jealousy most commonly results in a negative effect on the participants self confidence and agency as a whole.
LEAP then turns the survey around, focusing on positive ways that the participants deal with jealousy. It asks the following question: “What actions have you taken in the past month to stay confident?” These answers varied, with participants engaging in multiple tactics in order to remain confident. 19 people, or 65.5% of participants remind themselves that they are worthy. Other participants let the situation be (17 people or 58.6%), think about the things they are grateful for (17 people or 58.6%), and discuss the situation with friends, thus being vulnerable in the process (15 people or 51.7%). Lastly, the most common way that the participants dealt with jealousy was by listening to music (20 people or 69%).
Next, LEAP asked: “After your jealousy has passed, do you feel guilty?” Never was the most common answer (12 people or 41.4%), with Sometimes coming next (9 people or 31%). In contrast, only 1 person said they always feel guilt after jealousy.
Opinion was split down the middle for the next two questions. The first asked, “Do you think others feel jealous like you?” Half of the participants said that 100% of others are similarly jealous while the other half believed otherwise. Similarly, in response to the statement “Jealousy will stay with me forever,” 51% of participants disagreed while the other half concurred.
The survey then turned to potential, asking the question of whether jealousy keeps the participant from achieving their potential. Not one participant said that jealousy always limits potential, while 40% said it rarely inhibits potential.
In conclusion, the survey looked at the correlation between involvement in LEAP and jealousy. 58.6% or 17 of the participants of the survey are LEAP students.
Furthermore, the majority of LEAP students have been participating in the organization for over a year (58.8%/10 people).
The final question asked “On the scale of 1-5 (1=not at all, 5=completely), how has LEAP affected your ability to stay confident when you’re feeling jealousy?” The most common response was somewhere in between, with 31.6% of LEAP students choosing 3.
Overall, most of the participants in the survey feel jealous, but deal with this jealousy through positive means. It is also important to note that LEAP, as a leadership program, continues to encourage these positive means of handling the phenomenon.